We received used dinnerwares gift after we bought a new house.I was so offended but am I over-reacting?

used dinnerware gift OK or not.We received used dinnerwares gift after we bought a new house.I was so offended but am I over-reacting?
When I bought my first house lots of family and friends gave me used things. I was 25 years old and we soaked all our cash (which wasn't much) into this house and the mortgage payment was twice our rent.





Ten years later when I bought my second home (weekend home) we had nothing for it either (furnishings, linens, kitchen things, etc. Again, we were grateful for the nice used things we were given by friends and family. Heck - someone even gave us a PIANO.





No one owes you a gift for moving into a new house.





You might think they were tacky (and maybe it was a bit tacky), but it's the thought that counts. Be gracious.





P.S. Keep in mind that even if you get new things, the minute you use them they are ';used.'; If the items are of quality, used is not a problem.We received used dinnerwares gift after we bought a new house.I was so offended but am I over-reacting?
In almsot all Asian culture, it is very rude to give used utensils to someone who bought a new house or to someone who just get married. It is almost like cursing that person because someone is ready to move on with a new life and you give them used utensils. It's like cursing them to be continued to be poor in their new journey. Giving used furnitures is acceptable but ';used utensils'; a big no.
I think receiving a used item as a GIFT is tacky unless it is something with sentimental meaning. For example, your mother knows you love that one necklace of hers, and she gives it to you as a gift one year. To me, used dinnerware is something you bring over to the new homeowners one afternoon and ask if they would like to have the set while they are getting on their feet.
Oh, yes, I think so.... someone thought enough of you to try to give you a gift they thought you'd need and enjoy. Certainly it would have been wonderful to have a brand new set, but that they gave you a gift at all was a lovely gesture towards you.





Most of us still have hand-me-downs in our houses....even after all these years...and having gotten to a stronger financial situation...





I continue to keep a set of dessert plates given me by a very old lady who lived in the neighborhood where I grew up....I was setting up house...and she gave them to me...they were old, not very good plates....but they were hers and to her, very special...and the most special thing of all was that she gave me something of HERS so that I would feel that the best wishes of someone who loved me were in my house always....





I keep them, I use them and I even use them when I have guests....and everytime I see them or use them, I think of how she went to so much trouble to decide what to give me and then gave me one of her own things to make it more special..
It really depends on who it is from. Some people CANNOT throw things away. So it makes them feel SUPER when they can give it to someone they think needs it and will use it (and clear some space for them, too) If you don't like it, donate it to a second-hand store or take it to the junkyard. It could also depend on the dinnerware----it might be a valuble or semi-rare set so that would make the gift even more special than brand-new. Or they can't afford brand new (but i doubt that.) Any way you look at it, I would not take offense.
The traditional housewarming gift is purely symbolic, consisting of bread and salt. A gift you can actually use, even if it's been used before, is far beyond what etiquette requires, and you should be grateful.